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Question: I am a Muslim woman who just got married, but I had sexual relationship with the man I am married to before we got married in the mosque. I know that is sinful, but will Allah forgive me, or what do I have to do in order for Allah to forgive me? Please help me.

If you had extra martial affairs with the person you got married and then both of you repented sincerely about your heinous sin, then you will be forgiven.

Allah says, “Didn’t they know that it is Allah who accepts repentance of His servants and forgives sins?” (Q 9: 104). The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “Allah accepts repentance of a person so long as death has not reached his collar bone (i.e. so long as it is not done in death bed).”

Sincere repentance, however, is not simply saying, “Lord, forgive me”, “I ask forgiveness of Allah”. Sincere repentance involves experiencing within oneself a profound sense of guilt for disobeying Allah and for the terrible sin one has committed. Secondly, one refrain totally and entirely from the sin one is repenting as well as from such associations and circumstances that led him/her to it; thirdly, one must be resolved never to repeat the same in future, and finally, one must also do whatever he/she can to wipe out the past sins by engaging in good works as much as possible.

Once the above procedures are followed, we can look forward to Allah’s forgiveness for Allah is certainly all-Merciful and all-Forgiving.

Having said this, it is important to point out that if a person has sinned in the past, he/she must continue to practice vigilance, and visualize the watchfulness of Allah, and picture heaven and hell in front of them. That is the only way to check one’s carnal soul.

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