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Question: I will appreciate your response to my question, may Allah bless you all. I'm a good Muslim, I can't get married this year, I'm talking to someone in another country and we have intimate relation and we might get married if Allah wills, sometimes our talk involves sex, I'm very keen about my faith and I don't want to breach any of Islamic rules, I would like to know if talking by phone is prohibited in Islam or makrooh, taking into account it doesn't involve any real physical relation (since we are in different places) and it help keeping both of us away from any other haraam. Please, I will be waiting for your response as soon as convenient.
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Allah tells us in the Qur’an, “Do not go anywhere near adultery: it is an outrage, and evil path.” (Qur’an: 17: 33). So we are not only told to refrain from the actual intercourse but also forbidden to engage in any of the preliminaries that may directly or indirectly lead unto fornication. Such preliminaries include: flirting, sensual conversations, and speaking of sexual matters, etc. for often times one thing leads to the other. Therefore, the Prophet, peace be upon him, cautioned us against such acts saying, “eyes commit adultery, ears commit adultery, hands commit adultery, and feet commit adultery and the private part either consummates it or repudiates it.” Although you are certainly allowed to speak to your fiancée, your conversations at all times must be governed strictly by the Islamic ethics of interaction between males and females; for the fact that you are considering marriage with someone or that you are engaged to a person does not imply any license to break the law; for the person you are proposing to, or engaged to still remain a stranger to you as far as intimate relationship is concerned. So take care not to get carried away by your chats into overstepping the limits of halaal and haraam. If, as you have stated, your conversations involve sexual matters, then, I am afraid, you are overstepping the permissible boundaries. So I advise both of you to repent sincerely to Allah and cut out such conversations cold turkey. Allah says, “Certainly, Allah loves those who are ever- repentant and those who are consistently engaged in acts of purification (through good deeds).” So pray to Allah to help both of you to remain chaste, pure and modest. Here are a few supplications (dua’s) you may do well to recite on a regular basis:

Allaahumma tahhir qalbee wa ahsin farjee
(O Allah, cleanse my heart (of all traces of fornication) and help me to remain chaste and pure!).

Rabbi qinee sharra basaree; rabbi qinee sharra sam’ee, rabbi qinee sharra lisaanee; rabbi qinee sharra maniyyee
(My Lord, guard me against the evils of my eyes; Lord, guard me against the evils of my ears; Lord, guard me against the evils of my tongue; Lord, guard me against the evils of my private parts!).

Allaahumma aghninee bi halaalika an haraamika wa bi ta’atika an ma’siyatika wa bi fadhlika amman siwaaka
(O Allah, make me self-sufficient with that which You have decreed as halaal for me so that I don’t need to resort to that which You have made haraam for me; and let Your obedience suffice me so that I am not forced to disobey You; and let Your favour suffice me so that I am not compelled to seek favour from anyone else!).

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